Monday, 29 July 2013

Are you a Angry or Stressed out Solidier?











Is there is no greater honour than serving your country?
Young men and women across the country join the British army with dreams of adventure and valour.
They pledge allegiance to the Queen, steadfast in their belief that they are doing what is right and that a career in the armed forces will be rewarding and life enhancing.
Alas, not all their dreams come true. Many soldiers leave the forces, with crippling mental disorders, bringing home levels of stress which affect their families and ruins lives.
After the horrors of war, many servicemen and women find themselves facing another battle: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Statistics show that nearly 13% of servicemen admit to being violent in the weeks following their return from a war zone.
One in eight service personnel has attacked someone in a rage after returning from the battlefield. Wives, partners and children are often the victims.
Its commonly acknowledged that those who experienced multiple traumatic events on the battlefield – including handling bodies, aiding the wounded and seeing comrades maimed or killed – were four times more likely to lash out violently.
Anger and stress ruin lives. The Ministry of Defence is keen to stress that it has its own systems in place to help servicemen and women, offering 15 military Departments of Community Mental Health across the UK.
But is it enough?
Ex-servicemen and women are more prone than any other profession to fall victim to drinking and drug problems. Having to deal with the aftermath of war, in which they see and experience events of a truly shocking nature, they foster feelings of hopelessness, shame and despair, which often cloud their judgments and have a detrimental affect on their families and friends.
Violence, as a symptom of stress inevitably leads to relationship problems, employment problems, divorce and mental breakdown. Many people who develop these symptoms get better at some time. But about 1 out of 3 people with PTSD may continue to have some symptoms.
Even if you continue to have symptoms, treatment can help you cope. Your symptoms don’t have to interfere with your everyday activities, work, and relationships.
Don’t suffer alone.
Looking deep within yourself and recognizing you have PTSD is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength.
Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management is an expert in the field of beating stress and offers a collection of programmes, ranging from one-to-one coaching sessions to one day courses, designed to beat stress.
Each programme is geared to meet the needs of those that recognize the presence of stress in their lives and wish to take steps to deal with it.
There are a lot of stress courses available out there.
What makes Mike Fisher’s so special?
As with his Beating Anger course, Beating Stress combines sound educational and informational materials with some profound personal development and practical tools.
More specifically, the training focuses on individual’s self esteem. As stress is the tipping point which occurs when demands on us exceed our ability to cope with them, it is easy to imagine how fragile self esteem can result in stress.
Mike Fisher provides resources to help you Stay On Track after you’ve finished your program too!
If you are an individual wanting help with your stress levels, please find out more about the courses available at the British Association of Anger Management, atwww.stressexperts.co.uk and www.beatinganger.com.

Wednesday, 24 July 2013

The Glasgow Effect.

Addiction to drink and drugs are prevalent throughout UK cities, but Glasgow’s mortality rates far exceed any in the UK.

As home to 10% of Scotland’s population, Glasgow’s problems are very much Scotland’s problems. With heroin deaths accounting for 35% of all deaths, and alcohol linked to 22% of all deaths, Glasgow has got issues.

What can be done?

The first step is acknowledging your drink and drug problems.

Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management (B.A.A.M) would call anyone who does as ‘heroic’.

Having worked with over 16,000 people since 1996, he would say ‘It’s heroic of anyone to acknowledge their addiction and to take steps to beat it.’

Mike’s philosophy is that we turn to drink and alcohol to numb ourselves from the trauma of our anger.

Beating anger is the key to changing your life.

As someone who’s been on a B.A.A.M weekend workshop, I can testify that Mike’s methods change lives.

As he said on the first day to us ‘This will change your life’ and as a client said on the last day ‘WOW Mike, you have changed my life’.

His methods work.

Mike Fisher has the skills, experience and know-how to teach you the tools to beat anger once and for all. He’s not promising to eliminate your anger, he’s guaranteeing to teach you the tools to control your anger and in the process change your life forever.

Mike Fisher is now taking bookings for his Glasgow workshop.

For anyone who suffers from anger or knows someone who has anger problems, they would be well advised to check out his websites www.stressexperts.co.uk,www.beatinganger.com and www.angerguru.com for more information about his programmes.

If ever there is a time to save your life from anger, now is the time.

Thursday, 18 July 2013

Heat-waves and anger!

The whole country is basking in a heat-wave. The beaches are full, the parks packed and the sales of ice cream are going through the roof.

But is this heat-wave leaving people cool calm and collected or is it leaving them hot under the collar and ready to blow?

A person’s level of anger and stress is a response to their environment. Police chiefs and medical staff are more than aware of this as heat-waves are associated with an increase in violent crime.

But how do heat-waves affect families and individuals?

As the temperature gets hotter, so do our tempers. Summer heat-waves make us act like cranky, whiny toddlers, ready to lash out and apportion blame.

Any doctor would explain that an increase in body temperature causes an increase in physical arousal – your heart rate goes up and your blood pressure rises as your body tries to cool itself off.

Its all very well sitting by the seaside, licking an ice-lolly and sipping a cool drink, but for many of us, heat-waves mean being uncomfortable, irritable and more prone than ever, to anger and stress.

Normally congenial folks seem to be simmering, while others are on a slow burn. Hotter heads are steaming, and a few have even been pushed to the boiling point.

Health officials are warning people to take care as the UK continues to bake in a prolonged heat-wave, with special attention being paid towards the very young children, elderly people and pregnant women.

When it’s very hot, people have a tendency to get dehydrated or under-hydrated, and that can certainly result in becoming anxious and irritable, so it’s very important to maintain hydration.

With records for the hottest day of the year appearing to be broken on a daily basis, its best that everyone takes measures to stay cool and not to over-boil.

Five ways to keep cool calm and collected.

Stay hydrated.
This one is obvious but it bears repeating: drink lots of water. Never stop drinking water.

Stay inside if you can.
We all love to bask in the sunshine, but keeping in the shade, keeps us from boiling over.

Get wet.
Stick your feet in a tub of cold water, jump in the sea or a swimming pool, or just put a soaked towel around your neck. Having a bucket full of water thrown over you always cools the temper!

Avoid alcoholic drinks.
There’s nothing better than a cold beer on a hot day, but alcoholic drinks make you urinate more frequently and that’s not good. Same goes for coffee.

Keep covered.
Wear sunscreen to avoid sunburn and try to stay out of the sun as much as possible, even if you are spending the day outside. If a sun umbrella sounds too dainty for you, at least put on a hat.

Heat-waves are there to be enjoyed and savoured but be aware of the dangers. Sunburn isn’t the only symptom of a beating Sun. Anger and stress levels are very often raised but with sound advice and a cool head; there is no reason to get too hot under the collar and no reason to boil over.

For more information on keeping your temper cooled, check out the websites of the British Association of Anger Management, such as www.stressexperts.co.uk,www.beatinganger.com and www.angermanage.co.uk.

Enjoy the sun but don’t become its victim.

Tuesday, 16 July 2013

Depression and Aggression

It’s common practice to greet friends, colleagues and family with the opening question, ‘How are you today?’

More often than not we reply with the short answer, ‘OK’.

Even if you are feeling depressed, would you admit it? If you are feeling sad or miserable; is it common to share these feelings?

More often than not, we are prone to answer ‘OK’ rather than be open about our inner emotions.

But is it healthy to keep such emotions bottled up? Can depression lead to aggression?

In its mildest form depression can mean just being in low spirits. To its most extreme, it makes you feel suicidal. Being depressed doesn’t stop you leading a normal life. Thousands of sufferers carry on with life regardless, with the only symptoms being mood swings, bouts of annoyance and feelings of hopelessness.

Aggression makes an appearance as a consequence of depression. It’s there under the surface ready to show its head in the most unwanted of occasions.

How often do you see mild mannered individuals grimace for no apparent reason? Or clutch their fists tight or even hit the wall or kick an object out of sight?

Whether it's uncontrollable anger towards oneself or outward aggression toward others, whether a person or object, it's clinically proven that depression and aggression run hand in hand.

What to look out for?

Symptoms of depression vary from person to person, though common threads do appear across the board.

  • Feelings of sadness and gloom can either make you sleep too much or not sleep enough. If your sleeping pattern is being disturbed, it’s a sign.
  • Do simple tasks become a major annoyance? If you find you have trouble concentrating and that simple tasks become major obstacles, it’s a sign.
  • We all have feelings of being up and down. Everyone feels sad or has ‘the blues’ from time to time, but if feelings of hopelessness and helplessness persist, it’s a sign.
  • Again, we all have light and dark thoughts racing around our minds. The Yin and Yang philosophy teaches us that you can’t have one without the other. If you find you can’t control your negative thoughts, no matter how much you try, it’s a sign.
  • Losing your appetite or you can’t stop eating, is a sign.
  • Feeling more irritable, short-tempered, or aggressive than usual, is a sign.
  • Consuming more alcohol than normal or engaging in other reckless behavior, is a sign too.
  • And the most alarming sign, which you must seek help immediately with, is having thoughts that life is not worth living.

Why am I depressed?

Life throws up a varying array of challenges which manifest themselves into depression, which in itself leads to aggression. To name but a few reasons:

  • Loneliness
  • Lack of support
  • Life experiences, such as child-hood trauma or abuse.
  • Marital and relationship problems.
  • Financial strain.
  • Being unemployment or even underemployed.
  • Alcohol and drug abuse
  • Health problems and chronic pain.

What can I do?

Acknowledging your depression and aggression is the first step to dealing with depression and aggression. Whether it’s affecting your work life, or family life, help is at hand.

Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management has over 16 years experience of treating depression and aggression.

Learning what causes anger and what can be done to avoid becoming angry are among the main focuses of treatment. Also important is learning what to do when becoming angry and finding positive ways to focus feelings instead of becoming aggressive in response.

By visiting the websites www.stressexperts.co.uk, www.beatinganger.com and www.angerguru.com, you will find a number of programmes from weekend work shops, to 1-1 coaching sessions, to one day courses, which are all designed to beat and overcome depression and aggression.

Mike Fisher is happy to help with any questions, queries or enquiries you may have.

Give him a call now and beat the stress once and for all.

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Wednesday, 10 July 2013

Alcohol and Stress: a Lethal Combination?


Think again before having a drink to ease your stresses away.
Is a glass of wine or a pint of beer the best way to deal with stress?
Every evening across Britain, millions of couples will settle down on the sofa, after a hard day’s work, from either looking after children or tolerating their bosses, to enjoy a glass of wine or a pint of beer to while away the day’s stresses and strains.

But is it doing more harm than good?

While a glass of wine and a pint of beer may make you feel relaxed; too much, often leads to exacerbating the stress, which you hoped to ease in the first place. Have you noticed that nearly every argument you may have with your partner, originates after drinking a glass or three of alcohol?

Alcohol is classified as a depressant, which slows down the brain and the central nervous system’s processes. We feel the effects as being tipsy and merry, but nothing could be further from the truth.
Ask any nurse or policeman who’s worked a weekend shift. The majority of accident and emergency admissions are alcohol related and the same applies to crime and order. Alcohol plays a part in half of all reported murder, rapes and assaults.

The evidence is clear. Alcohol enhances your stress and often, with too much, pushes you over the edge.

The morning after.

Waking up with a thumping head-ache, while having to get the children to school and yourself at work, is an often over-looked consequence of drinking the night before.

The vicious circle starts all over again. Some settle for the ‘Hair of the Dog’, while others take refuge in bed, eating and generally laying on the sofa, to detoxify and regain the strength to tackle the day ahead.

Don’t avoid the issues.

Having a drink is basically an avoidance strategy. Its gives you the time and space to put aside the issues which are making you stressed in the first place. After all, isn’t it best to confront your boss about your working conditions, rather than take your frustrations out at home?

Isn’t it best to talk to someone about what’s worrying you, rather than bottling it up and inadvertently, by using alcohol, make you explode?

Only by sharing your problems can you come up with solutions. We’ve all heard of the aged old saying, ‘A problem shared is a problem halved’, its true, it helps.

Alcohol is not the answer.
As Mike Fisher from the British Association for Anger Management is fully aware, alcohol does more harm than good.

‘Manage your drinking habits responsibly,’ says Mike Fisher, ‘increased levels of drinking – wine or any other kind, is partly to blame for lower self-esteem and problems within relationships.’

‘Alcohol significantly impairs brain function; your thoughts and reactions become slower. People are more likely to misread social cues and have an inability to consider the consequences of actions that they may well regret when in a sober state of mind.’

Worried about someone you know or yourself?

Ask yourself two questions:

1.Do people tell you that you become aggressive when drunk? If more than three people tell you that, you need to take heed and do something about it.

2.Do you find yourself becoming aggressive or thinking negative thoughts when drunk? That’s an indication that there is suppressed anger there.

With drinking such an ingrained part of our culture, is there a solution?

‘Yes there is,’ answers Mike Fisher – ‘Responsible drinking.’

“I have clients who know that when they get drunk, they have problems with their anger. So, many have quit drinking to get their anger under control and feel all the better for it – on so many levels. It’s a huge concern but alcohol and anger can be a recipe for disaster so people should really watch their drinking.”

What to do?

Contact Mike Fisher from The British Association of Anger Management. He provides support programmes and training for interested individuals or groups. Check out such website as www.angermanage.co.uk, www.stressexperts.co.uk and www.beatinganger.com for more information.

Are you a bully like Charles Saatchi?


Charles Saatchi, the 70 year old art collector and co-founder of the famous Saatchi & Saatchi advertising agency, has opened the doors of his private life to tell the world he’s divorcing his wife of 10 years, Nigella Lawson.
Whether opening the doors into his private life was intentional or not, they were blown apart, after shocking pictures of him grasping his wife’s throat were splashed across the front-pages 4 weeks ago.
The pictures bring into focus the taboo subject of domestic abuse, illustrating the shocking truth, that even a ‘Domestic Goddess’ of Nigella’s stature, can be a victim. But what else does it say about the millions of men who bully their partners on a daily basis?
 At the most extreme, one woman is killed through domestic abuse every three days. It accounts for nearly a quarter of all reported crime and one in four women will be a victim of domestic abuse at sometime in their lives.
This doesn’t even begin to touch upon the impact domestic abuse has on children and as a consequence, the future of an entire nation. The facts speak for themselves; a large section of men across the country would have looked at the Charles and Nigella picture and thought she deserved it.
Mike Fisher from the British Association of Anger Management has over 16 years experience in the field of personal and professional development with a focus on stress and anger and knows better than anyone the impact abuse has on people’s lives.
He says ‘We recognize that a very high percentage of both men women and children who came to us especially for anger management suffered from very high levels of stress. As Director and CEO of Stress Experts, Beating Anger & Anger Guru, he’s developed a one day and two day workshops, focusing on ‘Beating Stress’ born out of anger management programs honed over 26 years of experience.
He says ‘Stressexperts’ is designed for anyone who recognizes they are experiencing very high levels of stress which eventually turn into anger, frustration and fury.’
It’s not marriage guidance which Charles and Nigella need, its Mike Fisher.
Stress and anger affect all walks of life
Stress and anger is a part of our makeup.  After all, isn’t it just the secretion of chemicals and hormones within the body that determine whether we fight or take flight?
Charles Saatchi was punished with a police caution. Whether police cautions are effective deterrents against domestic abuse is debatable, but you can be sure they won’t succeed in addressing the issues of why a man assaults a women in the first place.
It just goes to show, the rich and famous aren’t the only victims of domestic abuse, stress and anger. Saatchi says in his statement ‘I abhor violence of any kind against women and have never abused her physically in any way,’ dismissing the incident as nothing more than a ‘Playful tiff’.
He goes on to say how disappointed he was that Nigella failed to make a public statement backing up his non-violent credentials. Perhaps Nigella’s continuing silence, illustrates perfectly that this wasn’t the first time. That in fact, it’s the latest in a long line of assaults she’s endured, both in public and private. Though Saatchi reiterates ‘I must stress again my actions were not violent.’
Perhaps we shouldn’t throw stones in glass houses and give Charles Saatchi the benefit of the doubt. The stress and strain of life can push anyone to the limits of their anger. If looking at the picture made you think about your own relationship, help is at hand.
Mike Fisher from British Association of Anger Management is only a phone call away, and as a Guru on the subject he welcomes your call.
Check out the www.stressexperts.co.uk and www.beatinganger.com websites and stop bullying, full stop.